10 Ways to Deal With Child Molesters
74Protecting Our Children
This is a little off my normal topic. But I just felt I had to get it off my chest. I live in California and for the last few days all I have been seeing on the news are stories of how they now require high risk sex offenders to wear gps systems to monitor them. In my personal opinion, this is a waste of the tax payers money. These people should not be allowed to walk the streets. I feel that a child molester is the lowest form of life on the planet. So I'm gonna let everyone know what I think should be done with them. Here's my list of alternatives to the GPS system.
- Death Penalty : A grown man/woman that molests a child does not have the right to exist. I feel that molesting a child is a worse crime than killing a grown up. There are situations a grown person may put themselves in to make someone want to kill them. There's NOTHING a child can do to deserve being molested.
Well everyone, I was supposed to write about 10 alternatives that I felt were better than what they are currently doing about child molesters. But after the first one, I don't think anything else is suitable of the crime.
It's not right that these guys can molest kids and get probation, but someone can get life in prison for much less of a crime. I don't understand why our society doesn't put more value on it's children. They should be the most important and most protected people in society.
Even if a molester gets out of jail and never molests again, that doesn't change the fact that he hurt one of the most precious things on the planet. He should be put somewhere where he will never have that opportunity again. 1 strike, that's it. Molest a child and lose your life.
But for some reason we don't protect our kids from these people. After the big scandal with all of the Catholic priests, the law was changed so that the statute of limitations for sex crimes is now 7 years. That means if you molest a child while they are young and that child grows up and finally gets the nerve to speak up about it, nothing can be done. There was no vote on that. It wasn't a bill passed by the senate. It just somehow became a law. A law intentionally put in place to protect thousands of child molesters from prosecution.
That's how we treat our children in America. If someone was to beat you up and take your car, then get caught ten years later, they would be facing life in prison. But if the same person molested your daughter and got caught 10 years later they would not even be questioned. According to the law, your car has more value than your child's youth.
How the hell is that possible?
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i would disown my nephew, son or anyone I knew that did that. And I would also disown my husband who sympathized with him.
It is not possible to accidentally rape or molest someone.
I agree, the kid needs executed. And your husband needs smacked he sounds like a pervert himself.
report to the police
How is it that he hasn´t gotten caught, yet all of you know about it??? makes no sense...
I HAVE A DAUGHTER LIVING IN LUFKIN, TEXAS. SHE HAS 3 GIRLS OF HER OWN, AND HAS CUSTODY OF A LITTLE BOY THAT IS 3 YEARS OLD. CPS HAD A HOME STUDY DONE ON HER BEFORE SHE WAS AWARDED TEMPORARY CUSTODY OF HIM WHEN HE WAS ONE YR OLD. SHE IS BESIDE HERSELF; THIS LITTLE BOY HAS TO GO TO THE MOTHERS PARENTS EVERY OTHER WEEKEND. THE MOTHER WAS IN PRISON AND MY DAUGHTER GOT CUSTODY OF HIM. THE LITTLE BOY HAS BEEN COMING HOME WITH BRUISES ON HIS BACK AND TELLS MY DAUGHTER WHAT HAPPENED. HE HAS TOLD HER THAT HIS PAWPAW TAKES A SHOWER AND MAKES HIM TAKE ONE WITH HIM AND HE TOLD HER TODAY THAT PAWPAW PUT HIS "PE PE" IN HIS MOUTH AND IT CHOKED HIM. HE TOLD HER THAT PAWPAW PUT A STICK IN HIS HINNEY. ONE TIME WHEN THE LITTLE BOY CAME BACK HOME FROM A WEEKEND VISIT, HE ACTUALLY HAD BLOOD COMING OUT OF HIS HINNEY. SHE KEPT THE TISSUE THAT HAD THE BLOOD ON IT TO SHOW TO THE CPS AND DOCTOR. THE DOCTOR TOLD HER IT MUST OF HAPPENED EARLY IN THE WEEKEND, THAT THE RECTAL HOLE WAS VERY FORGIVING AND GOES BACK TO NORMAL SIZE QUICKLY. I HEARD HIM TELL WHAT PAWPAW DID, THE CHILD TOLD A TEACHER AT SCHOOL. CPS HAS BEEN ALERTED, THE SHERIFF AND THE POLICE....BUT THE BALL IS GETTING DROPPED SOMEWHERE.....BECAUSE THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS NOW AND THE JUDGE HAS NOT CHANGED ANY VISITATIONS YET. THE LITTLE BOY HAS OUTCRIES ABOUT THE GRANDPA BUT NOT THE GRADMA. HE IS HAVING NIGHTMARES NOW, HE HAS BECOME VERY FEARFUL OF THE BATHTUB, HE GETS IN TROUBLE AT SCHOOL LATELY. AGAIN TODAY SHE HAD AN EMERGENCY MEETING AT THE ADVOCACY CENTER IN LUFKIN AND THE LITTLE BOY DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING TO THEM, SO THEY SAID THEY WOULDN'T DO ANYTHING. SHE HAS A LAWYER, THE CHILD HAS A LAWYER AND CPS KNOWS ABOUT ALL THIS BUT NOTHING IS BEING DONE......AND THE EXCUSE IS BECAUSE HE ACTUALLY HASNT SAID ANYTHING TO THE CPS DIRECTLY OR SHERIFF OR THE COUNSLER HE HAS TO SEE REGULARLY. WHAT IS WRONG WITH OUR SOCIETY....THE KID IS BEING MOLESTED AND YOU SHOULD SEE THE ACTING OUT HE DOES TELLING MY DAUGHTER WHAT IS BEING DONE TO HIM. WHERE COULD A 3 YEAR OLD GET SUCH COMPLETE ACTIONS OF HOW SOMETHING IS DONE SEXUALLY UNLESS IT IS BEING DONE TO HIM.....HELP
D. LLOYD
D. Lloyd, I am so very sorry to hear this. I had a similar experience with my cousin. A friend of our familys son had been sodomizing him for years. When my cousin finally spoke out of course we went to the police and nothing ever happened,and he did tell what happened, in detail, but the police claim that they lost the record. We then asked to rerecord his statements but were told that since so much time went by his statements would have little merit!!! We were outraged and then demanded to do it but were refused, my aunt consulted an attorney and was told the same thing.My cousin went through counseling and so did my aunt and uncle to help them to deal with some of the behaviors he developed as a result of the molestation.Im sure the child no longer visits the grandparents so just keep it that way. Get him in counseling if that hasn't already been done and shower him with love, in cases like this that is all we can do. Once again im sorry this has happened and you will all be in my prayers.
does anyone want to just kill these molesters? I am so tired of the liberal judges letting these monsters out. They are not protecting our children. It is up to woman to protect our children...I propose we protect our children by picking these fukers off one bullet at a time
Your an idiot. Did you realize that sometimes the child still needs that person and may have forgiven them. You fuckheads speak about things you don't understand, yes I've been there and it hurts, but nothing hurts more thinking I could lose the person out of my life. You nay think death sentences are the answer, i think cut the heads off people with opinions.
It is the worst crime against humanity to hurt a child. Molesting kills children--their spirits, their innocence, their futures. Something must be done asap. People get stiffer sentences for robbery. Children are to be loved and protected and believed. Kids don't lie. Sociopaths do.
I am a single mother of a young daughter who was violently molested. He got 20 years but it's only an 85% crime.
This is a comment to the pa-pa story, even if you are not sure, but suspect something isn't right, tell someone, Do Something! keep the child safe! People we have to change the laws of how these people are dealt with. Ankle monitors (GPS), have to be used! Make the offender pay for the gps not tax payers.
It makes me sick that these people on average the very first time they are caught have already molested 167 times. I now worry about my daughter becoming one also. It should be mandatory for the suspected molester to be investigated, home, family, other kids he may have been in contact with.
I think when law enforcement officials and others don't do anything, I believe they must be one themselves. If you are not against child molesters, you are one of them.
Please e-mail me if you would like to ban together with me to get the laws changed, and Protect ALL children. audraz24@yahoo.com.
I recently have been dealing with similar situation regarding my son.
Dave - how hurtful for you to be so insensitive with your words. Death penalty might be a little extreme, but from someone who wants to protect their children and all children it is preferable outcome than allowing these sick people to live within our society and mess up more children. If you can't voice your opinion properly you should just keep it to yourself.
To all other victims - the system sucks. I had to endure child services coming to my house (one who is 8months), take pictures, record everything, question my parenting, contact two peers who thought I was a good parent and relive the situation and they have not contacted the offender. How does that make sense? I agree something must be done.
Dave;
Shut your pye-whole. Molesters can NEVER be rehabilitated and need to be ceased from existence.
How do you deal with child molestation, if you're an adult now? Me and my husband is the victim.We've been married for 10 years but just last night he cried his heart out to me and express this hurt to me....I have no answers and I feel the pain. The monster us his cousin,but he is 20 years older than we are... PLEASE HELP
My husband molested both of my daughters and on yesterday i let his parents know. They are christians and his mother had the damn nerveto tell me that I shouldn't let her son around my kids anymore like it's nothing. he has scared my family and they don't talk about it nor aplpogize to my kids nor say anything to their son but my mother-in-law will tell everybody else buisness. So I'm hurting and I have now let everyone around us know and will post it on facebook to shame there whole damn family and then maybe someone will stop talking about everybody else and talk to their son or maybe spend that money they areusing to go to Africa and get there son some freakin help.
my ex-husband moleated my daughter and her best friend,but got away with it. he is a police officer in lawrence mass,now he got married and have 3 kids a girls and a boy.....
dave-since u think people with opinions should have their heads cut off,&child molesters forgiven,you've got probs dude.so cut ur own head off(shud have before u posted ur opinion)
I feel your pain. I married into what I thought was a loving family. After my son was 2 years old, I learned that my father-in-law had been molesting his daughter (my husband's sister) for over 10 years. She cannot bring him to justice, and the family is actually on his side!! It has been 5 years now and this has created such tension between my husband and I that we are now separated. We are now in court over the fact that I don't want his father to have any contact with our children. He wants a supervised relationship. My sympathy goes to all of you. Molestation affects all the family. You cannot bury it away. It always comes back. Please get help for your loved ones dealing with this and do not victimize the victim!!
I was molestered by my Opa(german grandpa) when I was 2 and went on until I was 5 or 6, im now 12... The experience is awful... My opa was giving me gifts to make me not tell and so I'd let him touch me, he also forced me to touch him...I had no idea what molestoring was at the time... My mum use to make me sleepover his house... He also dried me off after bathes... When I turned 6 molestoring was all over tv, that's how I found out that what i let him do was terribly wrong... He had told me it is what any normal family does and if I tell anyone they I will not exist in this family anymore...
My mums friend Anne who has 3 daughters 1 sister who has her 3 daughters have recently been interviewed... Because Anne and her family have a family friend whom they call "uncle Dave".
One day Annes 8 yr old daughter came home from a sleepover at Daves complaining about a soor behind... Anne decided toput savlon on bianca's bum, but while doing so Anne noticed that biancas behind was widley open and red. Anne asked how Bianca got it, Bianca replied saying "he put his finger and hand all the way up inside me..." Anne was shocked and asked who, Bianca said it was dave... Bianca did not know about morlestoring... And there was much more proof that Dave molestored all the daughters in the family... Annes sisters 15 year daughter said nothing, she had stopped visiting him 3 years ago... Biancas molestation had been happening for 5 years... Dave moved out of town on court day... He move several cities before this... Meaning he molested many more children in Australia...
My past with being morlesterd is horribal, I wAs rewarded gifts for doing something wrong... I was morlesterd Hal my life... And ever since I was 6 I have hated me, I beleive I am going to end up being lesbian... I only like the company of my mum... I noticed my personality changed aswell.. I am a doormat, people walk all over me... I don't express myself, no one in my family knows what happened to me, nor my friends... And I have so many nightmares eversince that I can hardly sleep... I am hideous now, just a shell of a well spirited soul...
I still need to visit Opa even though I threatened to committ suicide... I have to hug him and kiss him on the lips... No one cares... I also am more emotinal than any other girls...and once when mum was so tired we had to sleepover he tried to moles me again, that was when I was 8 or 9... Even when I tried going out shopping with mum I ended up backing away from men and managed to run in to a wall which made me fall to the concrete ground also chipping my tooth... I mostly stay in a backyard tent because mum frequently gets visits from men including my opa I was muched loved until I was molestored...
The sad part about all this is the children is the ones that suffer....my son was molested by the neighbors son... in return he molested his daughter and son...how do you stop it...It blows my mind i dont think i will ever forget the pain he ( my son ) has cause..do i forgive him never i cant.. and my family took his side it wasent his fault because it happen to him...it's now is my fault...which at the time when it happen to my son my mother babysitted him while i work.. i didnt no it even happen to him till he got caught with his children... what it comes down to is you cant trust nobody,, it's sad your ouw family members you have to watch , and yes those step dads , the signs where there with his daughter acting up sceaming and crying not wanting to stay with him.. and stupid me i would say what in the world are you's doing to those kids never dreamed of what was going on... never dreamed my son who i cheerished and was proud of would do such a thing...i haven't talk to my son sense it happen.. he spent a yr in jail and got out the charges drop the little change her story...but i no what she told me no little 6yr could make up such a thing...she went to couseling for 2 yrs and i hope and pray that it help her,, he lost all right to see them unless he goes to parenting classes and see's the dr.s that she had to see.he refuses and now there getting older --all the things i read where the children go back and forgive them for what they did...i hope not he doesnt deserve them....the way i feel some might say i'm wrong ..
WE AS A NATION NEED TO TAKE THESE PEOPLE WHO HURT CHILDREN AND SIMPLY TORCHER AND KILL THEM IN PUBIC. THE POLICE ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING ABOUT IT. IN FACT MOST CHILD MOLESTERS HAVE SOME LINK TO LAW ENFORCEMENT. SOME COPS ARE CHILD MOLESTERS
To be honest, i think that child molesters should be castrated and sold as slaves. Instead of killing them, they should be put to good use. They could have the shitty jobs no one else wants, and in return, the people who own them get 1/2 the wage they would get if they were actually working. Imo, it would do wonders. companies wouldn't have to pay as much for them.
My girlfriend of one year and almost 2 months has told me she has been molested by her uncle not to long ago shes 12. I dont have an exact age when she was touched but all she told me was that she was called downstairs with her little brother and she had told me that her uncle had touched her vagina boobs and butt and then had her bend over and put his penis in a lil not enough to pop her thingy that makes her bleed ive just gotten this new today she has keept it a secret me her brother and her mother are the only ones who know shes very calm telling me but i was txting her and decided to punch and throw things she hasnt told her father because she thinks he will kill him i personaly wanna kill him myself hes running free somewhere in florda and has yet to be brought to justice what do i do? I want to help her because i love her so much.
My neighbor for the past 18 months is a convicted child molester. He went 30 years without detection on an outstanding bench warrant from the neighboring state of Wisconsin where the abuse took place (20 felony counts of unlawful sexual contact, oral and vaginal, with his nieces 7 and 9 years old back in 1975). He was apprehended here in Illinois only after the freak appeared on America's Most Wanted in 2007 and his ass was caught within 5 days. When the US Marshals came to slap on the cuffs, his lame excuse about the whole sordid affair was, "Uh, I forgot." Anyway, the freak's "wife" who resembles a Yorkie sow decided she could never get another man as fat and ugly as she is so she put the house and some other money up, spent a total of $200,000 or so for a hotshot Chicago criminal defense attorney, and kept his anatomy intact because he's out of prison on "lifetime parole". Because he is a psychopath, he has no conception of right or wrong and has raised his son, now a 28-year old, to be another turd on legs. The child molester only makes $15/hour in his prison work-release job so son supplements the family income with drug dealing. The local cops are aware of all this, and I am outraged that the @#*hole is able to profit by proxy from the son's crime. Without this drug dealing the family could never afford the $2000 monthly rent here. Bottom line, jailhouse justice is the way to go with these guys. Incarcerate and let the bastards take care of their own (I work in law enforcement by the way and these people have shown themselves to be shameless but very cowardly as far as encountering me.)
very encouraging
My brother is in jail for molesting his disabled daughter. He lost everything and my mother is now raising his other son. My niece is in a foster home. My brother's ex wife was financially secure. She is a nut case who lost everything due to her own stupidity. My mother has spoke with my brother over the years. She is still very angry yet she still is in contact with him. He writes my mother letters and leaves messages for me that tell me how sorry he is. Him and I were never very close and we just began having a relationship the year before he went to jail. I really thought him and I could finally have a brother sister relationship we never had. Then he did this. I really need some honest advice. WHY can't I find it within myself to forgive him. I really want to forgive him but I can't. I just can't do it. I feel like if I was a really good person like I try to be that I could forgive him. I know one day when he gets out of jail, he will be at my mother's house visiting and I will have to see him then. A part of me feels bad for him too. He lost a high paying auto job, both of his kids, his house, his wife (which he should have lost years ago), he had lots of money in the bank, his house was paid for and he 2 paid for cars. He had it all. Now he has prison clothes and nothing. I finally have found my way. I'm getting out of debt and buying a house. Now I have more than him. Why can't I forgive him? I hope he rots in jail. I still feel horrible and it's been 6 years already.
My husband was child molest by few people in his past and his parent didnt know but only know One that found out few years later and do nothing because police said no proof. So.. He think he's bi-sexually because he is attracted to a young man. later on he molested his stepson which is my son I caught them. But I didn't call police because Police is not help anything. It will make worse. So I am helping other way God is asking us..I made my husbands monster ran away and not come back. And My son said your decision to call police or not. So He seems back normal now. He now able share his personal talk with me better now. So I want search find help for my husband to prevent from monster come back to him. Like I dont need a Police, Dss, etc get involve and take children away. We wanted help my husband out and my son want see him help too. We have very strong love relationship. Can you please tell me how or what to do?
pedophiles these things should have a us label on their head saying unknown sample they are not human kill these digusting plague bearers they take innocent lives from children no mercy is what they need torture then kill them all
No not enough is being done. I was molested as a child, sick part about it my own MOTHER knew this was happening, she ignored it, this has left me with major depression, I am now 57. I hate leaving my home anymore, do not function well at all. SERIOUSLY after proven guilty beyond a shadow of a doubt, they should have a tatoo on their face warning of their f...ing sickness. Odd how when these bastards are caught they try to claim they are sick, I find that odd, why is it rape or molestation instead of hanging themselves, jumping off a bridge, running out in front of a train, robbing a bank...NO there sick minds are always on sex, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. As for those that say cut there di..ks off, no these sick bastards will use foreign objects. The words of my stepfather, as he was molesting me haunts me beyond belief, the things he said to me. He is dead now, had a stoke was in a wheel chair for 7 years, I hope and pray the filthy sick bastard suffered beyond belief and if there is a hell, I hope he is in it, suffering beyond my belief.
My mother is dating a person who was convicted of child molestation in 1995. Apparently he no longer has to register with state of Indiana for his crime? Why is that? Also my mother allows this man to be around her granddaughter's two girls ages 2 and 4 (my mother's great grandchildren). It doesn't seem to bother her granddaughter that that my mother lets this man be around these kids. And my brother (the kids' grandfather) doesn't seem to be bothered by it also. But it makes me SICK TO MY STOMACH. Is there ANYTHING I can do to make keep this pervert away from my great nieces??? It's making me crazy thinking about it all the time.....
I understand child molestation clearer than many. I was molested and noone knows. I did tell my mother and she extorted money from my father for what he did. She continued to send me to him and the abuse never stopped. I love my father a great deal and we have a very strong relationship but now I am an adult and I have daughters and nieces and am terrified for them constantly because I don't know how to protect the family from the person that I know that he is. I want my children to know him but will not place them in an unsafe situation and really don't trust him with them. I am a very angry untrusting person not because of the molestation but both parents betrayal. Since this has all happened my mother was murdered and my father is blind, but I still have not been able to find any comfort or solice. So for those who feel that molesters should be killed my father taught me everything that I know and I needed a father more than ever because I never had a mother and for those who think that they should rott in jail. If he did my family would have been on the street because he did provide everything for me. So go ahead and bash me but He does have something to offer we just have to figure out how to separate the good from the evil. My husband doesn't know that I was molested and my children have never seen their grandfather and think that it is just a issue of finances. They have seen pictures and talk to him almost daily, so he does have a place in their lives. This is the first time that I have ever been able to admit what happened to me since I told my mother and was used as a pawn and extra income.
I am so sorry other kids are facing nights like I did growing up. CPS DHR are a waste of tax payers money one of my molestors admitted to dhr he did it after I was of age but I had a baby brother they let him visit with. Hes in Blount co alabama never been arrested or answered for what hed done, I am 29 with 3 kids and Im so protective I wont let anyone be alone with them. It messed me up nobody cares im just one moore person it happen to. there isnt help, when it destroyed my family till now even if he was hung it wouldnt help. All I know is I have PTSD and its not fair I live with this eveyday and It keeps happing to others. I know some bleeding hearts believe they can be rehabilitated they cant. cut it off they still will molest. the scariest part is they are mostly the most normal friendly wonderful daddy youd ever see. mine was. I bet if you check most of them say god forgave me why cant you. the worst thing I hear that makes me angry i molested you because i was. what the crap so that means i will be a child molester i dont think so im not god and i dont forgive him because hes probly still doing it to his grandkids there. It will never stop....that monster will never lay eyes on mine. and when my kids are playing in the yard i fear one is watching them yeah as my mom says get over it it was in the past.
By not telling anyone family and the world to me is self destructive how long do you wanna deal with it yourself. the best way to begin to heal is tell. it is hard the first few times but the more you tell your story it gets it out of you like a toxic secret. it will never go away but you stay a victim untill you stand up make a bone and tell. tell someone close tell a doctor, iv even told strangers. one it helps you heal then again as many people iv told they have courage to tell. when you tell enough you wont be a victim anymore youll be a survivor. That is something to be proud of. It wasnt my fault nor any other child, nothing can help unless you help yourself go through th process of guilt love betrayle hurt anger those never go away but they ease with everytime you tell. nobody will rescue you they cant its done and nobody can fix you so the last step trust learn to trust yourself, then one more person then on and on. you may be parinoid about you kids but iv have taken this as a gifft. you can never be protective enough even when people think so tell them why your that ay they will understand.good luck and please tell someone other than a computer.
I am 25, and my mother died this year, (which was hard for me), then about a month later my sister confessed to me my grandfather molested her while we were growing up...which made me feel like absolute crap, while I was getting over realizing I'd never see my mom again.
While she was sleeping over with another cousin at their house, he got her out of bed to go somewhere with him late at night. Then he took her with him to go to the bathroom. I didn't want my sister to give me more detail than that or I might be in jail now instead of writing this. But then it happened again over the years.
So I told my dad, which really stressed me out. I'll never forget the COMPLETELY puzzled and unbelieving look in his face as he cried. The poor man just got home from work, he does long days in construction, and was making dinner and was going to sit down and relax before the daily grind started all over again.
I've never seen my dad cry. Or his voice like it was then...telling me about how that was his little girl and all that kept running through his mind was he wasn't there to protect his child.
I knew my grandfather was a P.O.S. for about 4 years I had kicked him out of my life due to his constant lecturing me about how I wasn't doing well enough in life. I bought my own house at 21 and still have it despite being laid off from a high paying job and now work part time jobs...Meanwhile, when he was my age, my grandfather smoked like a chimney, would come home from work and sit outside and get drunk. Yeah, I know. I was really failing compared to him at my age.
He was also one of those Holy Rollers, who berated you if you thought church wasn't your cup of tea and you were also wrong if you didn't share any of his opinions on any subject. I really hate people like that...But big surprise, one of the biggest hippocrites turns out to be a man who boasts about how Godly he is. I am spiritual, but I also have compassion for others.
Anyway, my dad got my sister on the phone eventually and she confirmed it all. I stayed until she got to talk to him. We met that Sunday and then went over to his house and confronted him. HE poked his head out the door and my dad kept yelling at him, "What did you do to her?!!" My grandmother, who's loosing it mentally, knew something was wrong and yelled, "What did you do to her. She was so upset with him. He denied it at first and then realizing he had two big men standing in his living room, he came out and said he did it.
My grandmother cursed at him. Which he more than deserved. His excuse, was his sex life with my grandmother was ending, so he turned to my sister. Apparently, he never heard of masturbating which is something a lot of people don't like, but it's in every way shape and form better than having sex with a child...who's related to you!
One of her boyfriends in High school told me he had molested her. But I questioned her and she said he was lying. I knew my grandfather said she shouldn't have boyfriends at 15, so I thought that's why he was saying that stuff. I even asked her next boyfriend about it, and he said she never said anything about it.
My sister later told me that her 2nd boyfriend knew about it, even her best friend, her 3rd boyfriend, too. BUT NOBODY SAID ANYTHING BC SHE MADE THEM PROMISE NOT TO. In a case like that, some promises are made to be broken. She said she didn't want it to come out until he was dead because he was the only one who worked in the household, he shared with my grandmother, and if he went to jail, my over weight grandmother would have to be responsible for herself. Self responsibility is a bitch to most adults...so it's much easier to live a life filled with pointing the finger and being lazy instead of active.
But anyway, he never went to jail. My dad yelled at him and told him he'll never see any of us kids again. My grandfather says he didn't touch of my other female cousins...but honestly, the guy who has sex with kids isn't the guy you take seriously. As far as I know, my dad then told his other brothers...whom most have daughters.
My mom told my dad before that my grandfather demanded to see her breasts...she was his daughter in law and my dad let it go. *SHAKES HEAD* My dad even looked up to his dad for so long, and when I stopped talking to my grandfather, my dad took his side, in that I needed to get over things and realize they were only trying to look out for me.
But yeah, my mom (who wasn't an angel, but I loved) is gone and will never see me marry my fiance or her grandchildren, yet that bastard is still breathing and going on with his life.
The good die young (My mom at 46) but the pricks won't go away.
Sometimes while I'm at work and having a bitch of a day, it pops up in my head how bad I want that man to be killed. I believe murdering innocent people is horrible. BUT SOME PEOPLE DESERVE TO DIE! My sister says she has grown up and recovered from it all, but not good enough. To know she grew up as a teenager holding all this in and dealing with all that happened to her is something that completely lights my flame and makes me want to take the 15 minute trip over to his house with my shotgun.
People make mistakes. But like someone said above, forcing an innocent child into sex is not a mistake. You are taking something away from them that they will never get back, and that's their innocence. My sister never deserved what happened to her. Her only crime was that my dad trusted his father to look after his children when he left us with them...which you should be able to do. Then my grandfather TOTALLY exploited that trust. I also find it hard to swallow, that when growing up, my grandfather would constantly give my dad projects to do at their house, while things needed to be fixed at our house and he should be spending time with us, not baby sitting his grown parents.
So in closing...I wouldn't feel bad if I killed my grandfather. I could live honestly with myself. I really could. I could see myself being a loving husband and father...reading to my children before bed, helping them with homework, and watching them grow up...happily knowing one less bastard who does this to children is gone because I cared enough to do something the law wouldn't.
The only thing that allows evil to prosper is for good men to do nothing. We aren't talking about littering a gum wrapper along the high way. WE ARE TALKING ABOUT CHILDREN HAVING THE PERSON THEY COULD GROW UP TO BECOME DESTROYED!!!
Please don't think of me as a horrible or deranged person. yes, everyone, including myself, has thought of beating the crap out of someone before. But this is a WHOLE NOTHER feeling of hatred.
I will not burn with this feeling forever. But people like him don't deserve to live on the planet with good people like me who want to protect innocents and stand up and tell someone when things are wrong instead of holding them in because someone made your promise you wouldn't tell.
What's wrong with child molesters? Even as a 6 year old, I was always turned on by older women in swim suit calendars I'd see at the garage where my dad would hang out. Never did I really want a girl my own age, and I just don't get how you could find a child's body appealing sexually. Can't wrap my head around it. Thanks for letting me vent and sorry for the long story.
"I wouldn't feel bad if I did it..." I completely understand. I wouldn't feel bad either.. I had my TWO YEAR OLD DAUGHTER in a government office and this HUGE MASSIVE guy started talking to her. He was like 6'2, overweight, dirty... and smiling at her and talking to her while we were waiting. She's very outgoing, to most everyone...still to this day she'll smile and spark up conversations with most everyone. But not him. She was timid and like a recluse...like I'd never seen. I felt really weird and uncomfortable and got away from him. I still caught him eyeing her from a distance. THEN, a guy randomly came up to me and told me to keep her away from him, that he was a convicted child molester. I left. I was even scared he tried to scope out my license plates. I was in shock that this beast, huge awful, dirty thing was checking out my TINY SWEET INNOCENT TWO YEAR OLD GIRL. I would L-O-V-E to end his life by whatever means necessary...and he never even touched her. Its different from a family member...the feelings are more complex, but the immorality of it is just plain disgusting. Sickening that people can talk themselves into something like that...and justify it...and do it over, and over again. Some of them may not deserve the death penalty...I had a friend who was molested by her father, when he was extremely addicted to drugs. Through her confronting & calling him out on it. Talking about it, hearing and seeing the guilt and regret he had & forgiving him...she, somehow, found peace. I guess that's what that Dave guy was trying to say, about the victims not wanting them to be completely gone out of their lives. The feelings there are just so complex. HOWEVER, guys like that nasty big stranger eye-screwing my toddler...I definitely should not have run into that guy walking around freely. AND whoever let him out of jail should be shot.
ANN 3 years ago
MY HUSBANDS NEWPHEW CAME TO LIVE WITH US AT 15. HE WENT HOME FOR THE HOILDIAY AND MOLESTED HIS 12 YEAR OLD BROTHER. HIS MOTHER CALLED AND TOLD US ABOUT IT 6 WEEKS LATER. THEN HE MOLESTED A GIRL ON THE SCHOOL BUS WHO WAS ON THE TRACK TEAM AND GOT AWAY WITH IT. I FEEL SO USED, MY HUSDAND MAKES EXCUSES FOR HIM AND SAYS THAT IT WAS JUST AN ACCIDENT AND THAT HE DIDNT MEAN TO DO IT. I WANTED TO SEND HIM BACK TO HIS PARENTS AND MAKE HIM FACE WHAT HE DID.
IT HAS CAUSED A HUGH RIFT IN MY MARRIAGE, I THINK HE IS STANGE AND WEIRD AND GOT A AWAY WITH A CRIME. MY HUSBAND JUST FEELS OBLIGATED AND FEELS SORRY FOR HIM. HIS HEPHEW WAS ABLE TO DEVIDED OUR MARRIAGE.
I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM.
HE SENT A PICTURE OF HIS 3 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND I FEAR FOR HER.
IT MAKES ME SICK WHAT HE HAS DONE, HE WALKS AROUND LIKE HE HAS DONE NOTHING. HOW HE LOOKS AT HIM SELF IN THE MIRROR I WILL NEVER KNOW.
DOES ANYONE ONE HAVE SOME ANSWERS ?
ANN